Are you always seeking more and more choice? Is it possible this is a form of self-sabotage?.A more recent 2018 study used brain scans to show that although we enjoy knowing we have choice, our brains goes into ‘choice overload’ beyond 12 choices. It turns out people were more likely to buy from a small display of six choices than a bigger one of 24. It turns out that after decades of creating a society where we thought choice was freedom, our brains falter in the face of too many options.Ī famous (if now dated) study by American psychologists Iyengar and Lepper looked at how likely people were to buy jam if they were faced with many options. Where did you learn to always compare yourself to an unrealistic ideal? Or from whom? Is this really a thought pattern you want to continue?Ģ.How are you using regret to not accept your life as it is, and see what IS going well?.Are you beating yourself up over something that is simply idealistic over realistic?. So we are likely to forgive ourselves for buying a car that turns out to be a bit of a lemon, but be endlessly regretful for, say, not trying to make a career out of singing. People are quicker to take steps to cope with failures to live up to their duties and responsibilities than their failures to live up to their goals and aspirations.” It’s idealism that drives us to be mired in regrets.Ī study looking at how regret relates to self-concept found that, “people’s most enduring regrets stem more often from discrepancies between their actual and ideal selves. Research around regrets show that we tend to forgive ourselves for mistakes we actually make. Why do I feel regretful with every decision I make?īut why do some of us experience a constant state of regret, where we feel we are always messing up? Psychologists have several theories about regret. If we, say, lie to someone we love and feel terrible after, we know not do it again. Sometimes we really do make a bad decision, and our regret guides us to change for the better. Left feeling regretful with every decision you make? With a sense of sorrow for all the things that might have been? Is regret always a bad thing?
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